All posts filed under: identity

3 Instant Steps To Owning Your Energy

It is probably a little strange to think that energy can be “owned” considering energy is everywhere, in everything, accessible and available at any time. Yet, we easily allow our own energy to be imbalanced and shifted depending on our environment.  Work related stress? An unruly coworker? Long commutes? A hard day at home? Do any of these trigger an imbalance in your energy? There are many things in our surroundings and our environments that we cannot control.  HOWEVERRRR, what we can control, is how we respond to these events and situations. What we can control, is our own energy.  We can control how we respond to situations. The next time you find yourself in an event that you feel is starting to shift your energy, try these steps to reign it back into alignment: Assess the vibe of your environment and the vibe of your own energy.  Scan your energy- how are you feeling?  Pay attention to your own body language.  What kind of actions or behaviors are you demonstrating? These are cues and …

stop hating on millennials already

I used to nark on millennials- something I am not proud of, but I have had a change of heart recently.  Their lingo and music still makes me want to jab a q-tip in my ears, but that’s as far as I will let my adversity towards them go.  This generation is our future, and will pave the path of the future for the generation after that. These beautiful souls are living in the age where we are being called to question everything! They are becoming awakened to the energy that surrounds them, and they know deep in their gut, that shit is just not happening as it should be. They are starting to ask questions.  Discover different methods, explore various options… They help us see the gray matter in things that we have known for so long to be “black and white”. You want to make fun of them for switching jobs on the regular? I don’t blame them! They are embracing their true self and purpose and are realizing that their triangle personality …

Stop Playing Small

You are playing small, and this is your permission to stop that shit! Since the day you were born, you have been destined for a life of growth, learning, fun and love. This life is meant to be enjoyed and fulfilled as you see fit. You were born for greatness. So stop playing small because you are bigger than what you think you are. Stop wasting time making decisions that do not serve your greater good and that make you feel weak or unworthy. Decisions that kill your confidence and self esteem. We keep ourselves small because we are fearful. We are fearful of old patterns and stories , and the ego holds on to those stories to keep us small and safe. When we stay small, we live our lives with very little connection to our purpose and intuition. We live our days not honoring our true path and destiny in life.  We do not honor our life purpose and we rob ourselves of a lot of experiences that serve our greater good. So let’s …

{Identity} The story of validation

Certifications, job promotions and titles. I have achieved these over and over again. All the while, never really asking myself if it was what I really wanted. It felt good to achieve these goals and feel successful, but what I have soon realized was that it was never out of passion.  I just knew it was good to achieve them . It looked good to achieve them. It made me feel validated. I never realized it then, but validation was something I craved.  I needed it to feel like I mattered. It was my way of proving to those around me that I was here.  I was valuable. I was present. I had purpose. I am worthy.  I matter. Once I realized this pattern, I knew it was important to figure out when it started and how it even came about.  I could trace this need for validation as far back as I can remember. In our traditional Hispanic culture, the voices, ideas and thoughts of children are merely celebrated.  This is most evident if …

manifesting as an introvert

Being an introvert does not mean you have to play small. You don’t have to be loud or aggressive to get what you want in life. You just need to be true to you. There was a time when I didn’t think that was true.   I would see people come into a room and simply dominate it.  People would hang on their word, give them positive attention and appreciate their presence.  I used to think that by coming in strong and loud, that could warrant the attention and respect.  Funny how it never worked out for me that way when I gave it a whirl here and there (to make matters worse, I am an introvert through and through).  Forcing myself to appear big, loud and obvious made me feel phony and disconnected.  I hated every minute of being in an environment where I felt I had to try to be someone that I knew I wasn’t. What I didn’t realize then was that those people didn’t attract attention by the decibel in which they …

Being Your Own Guru {identity}

The more I keep hearing “Be your own guru”, the more it continues to resonate with me. Hard. Who better knows what is best for you than….you?! Sounds like a no brainer, right? However, if you are or were anything like I was for the past two decades, you might feel as though this concept was unreachable.  Foreign, even. I had very little connection to my true identity and purpose. All I knew was that I had very little self confidence, and seeking approval and validation from others made me feel better. I based my life decisions and behaviors based on that. A total people pleaser, which is really just a nice way to say “a total pushover”. Man I used to get so mad when people would call me a pushover, but that is what I was because I didn’t know anything else. So how could I have possibly become my own guru if I didn’t even know who the heck I was?! It has taken A LOT of deep healing, soul searching and digging …

{identity} living my best (authentic) life

Real talk. I have been a bit quiet with my writing and for once its not because I am afraid to share my voice. I have started my deep energy healing full throttle since January, and it is STILL going strong. As I continue to journal, meditate and grow, it feels as though I am peeling off a new layer of my true, authentic self.  A part of me I never knew existed.  It’s like I am meeting this new part of me for the first time, and learning that we are going to be life long friends.  I want to get to know this new part of me.  Be kind. Smile.  Ask questions.  I want to get to know her reaction to certain situations.  I am learning how she grounds herself when shit gets stressful. I am loving every moment of watching her walk tall, proud and confident. It brings me the most immense pride seeing her act upon her intuition and gut instinct, instead of what she thought was the “right thing to …

{true identity} our stories

  Grab your journal and a pen, girl….its time to get deep and ask yourself the following questions: What stories are holding you back? Who are the people that made you feel less than and told you that you aren’t enough? Who made you feel small and insignificant and didn’t honor you in all of your beauty and glory ? What are those memories that keep you small, ashamed and insignificant? More importantly,  why do you allow them to determine your worth? How you treat yourself? What you are truly able to manifest? Why do you let yourself become identified by these past events? Why are you a prisoner to past memories that no longer serve you? I want you to find comfort that what is in the past is just that…the past! It does not identify you- it does not determine your worth. What you do right now- is a testament of your true self. You have the present and the future to make your life what you want it to be- to break …