All posts filed under: self love

3 Instant Steps To Owning Your Energy

It is probably a little strange to think that energy can be “owned” considering energy is everywhere, in everything, accessible and available at any time. Yet, we easily allow our own energy to be imbalanced and shifted depending on our environment.  Work related stress? An unruly coworker? Long commutes? A hard day at home? Do any of these trigger an imbalance in your energy? There are many things in our surroundings and our environments that we cannot control.  HOWEVERRRR, what we can control, is how we respond to these events and situations. What we can control, is our own energy.  We can control how we respond to situations. The next time you find yourself in an event that you feel is starting to shift your energy, try these steps to reign it back into alignment: Assess the vibe of your environment and the vibe of your own energy.  Scan your energy- how are you feeling?  Pay attention to your own body language.  What kind of actions or behaviors are you demonstrating? These are cues and …

stop hating on millennials already

I used to nark on millennials- something I am not proud of, but I have had a change of heart recently.  Their lingo and music still makes me want to jab a q-tip in my ears, but that’s as far as I will let my adversity towards them go.  This generation is our future, and will pave the path of the future for the generation after that. These beautiful souls are living in the age where we are being called to question everything! They are becoming awakened to the energy that surrounds them, and they know deep in their gut, that shit is just not happening as it should be. They are starting to ask questions.  Discover different methods, explore various options… They help us see the gray matter in things that we have known for so long to be “black and white”. You want to make fun of them for switching jobs on the regular? I don’t blame them! They are embracing their true self and purpose and are realizing that their triangle personality …

Disconnection from emotions

When we turn off our abilities to feel certain emotions, we don’t have the privilege to select which emotions we want to turn off, ignore, and hide from. When we turn off our connection with one or a few select emotions, we actually end up turning off our connection with ALL emotions and feelings – the good, bad and the ugly. Further more, on a spiritual level, it prevents us from receiving any type of messages, intuitive downloads and communication from our spirit guides, angels and our own intuition. How are we supposed to be guided by our own intuition if we can’t even allow ourselves to tune it and feel anything? You know what you gotta do right? You gotta feel it to heal it. Feel all the feels. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable and surrender to the lessons and messages those memories and emotions are trying to teach you. *note: If the feelings you are trying to avoid/ignore are triggered by a past trauma, then I encourage  you to seek the appropriate help …

Trade pain for peace

Forgiveness can be a hard pill to swallow. Regardless of any wrong doing and actions that have caused us nothing but pain and trauma, do you really think holding on to that energy is going to benefit you and allow you to move on peacefully? It’s time to use that big ‘ol F word…forgiveness. Not necessarily forgiving the person or the action, not unless it feels right for you, of course. We are being called to seek forgiveness for the benefit and well being of your heart and mind. You get to create a conduit of love and light to fill your heart, mind and soul.  You replace toxic, unfavorable, angry, sad and betrayed energy for love, peace and light. Release the pain that no longer serves you, and you choose to replace it with love, light and forgiveness. Trade pain for peace. Change the vibration of your energy and watch a beautiful manifest life unfold from here on out.

{Identity} The story of validation

Certifications, job promotions and titles. I have achieved these over and over again. All the while, never really asking myself if it was what I really wanted. It felt good to achieve these goals and feel successful, but what I have soon realized was that it was never out of passion.  I just knew it was good to achieve them . It looked good to achieve them. It made me feel validated. I never realized it then, but validation was something I craved.  I needed it to feel like I mattered. It was my way of proving to those around me that I was here.  I was valuable. I was present. I had purpose. I am worthy.  I matter. Once I realized this pattern, I knew it was important to figure out when it started and how it even came about.  I could trace this need for validation as far back as I can remember. In our traditional Hispanic culture, the voices, ideas and thoughts of children are merely celebrated.  This is most evident if …

manifesting as an introvert

Being an introvert does not mean you have to play small. You don’t have to be loud or aggressive to get what you want in life. You just need to be true to you. There was a time when I didn’t think that was true.   I would see people come into a room and simply dominate it.  People would hang on their word, give them positive attention and appreciate their presence.  I used to think that by coming in strong and loud, that could warrant the attention and respect.  Funny how it never worked out for me that way when I gave it a whirl here and there (to make matters worse, I am an introvert through and through).  Forcing myself to appear big, loud and obvious made me feel phony and disconnected.  I hated every minute of being in an environment where I felt I had to try to be someone that I knew I wasn’t. What I didn’t realize then was that those people didn’t attract attention by the decibel in which they …

Being Your Own Guru {identity}

The more I keep hearing “Be your own guru”, the more it continues to resonate with me. Hard. Who better knows what is best for you than….you?! Sounds like a no brainer, right? However, if you are or were anything like I was for the past two decades, you might feel as though this concept was unreachable.  Foreign, even. I had very little connection to my true identity and purpose. All I knew was that I had very little self confidence, and seeking approval and validation from others made me feel better. I based my life decisions and behaviors based on that. A total people pleaser, which is really just a nice way to say “a total pushover”. Man I used to get so mad when people would call me a pushover, but that is what I was because I didn’t know anything else. So how could I have possibly become my own guru if I didn’t even know who the heck I was?! It has taken A LOT of deep healing, soul searching and digging …

{identity} living my best (authentic) life

Real talk. I have been a bit quiet with my writing and for once its not because I am afraid to share my voice. I have started my deep energy healing full throttle since January, and it is STILL going strong. As I continue to journal, meditate and grow, it feels as though I am peeling off a new layer of my true, authentic self.  A part of me I never knew existed.  It’s like I am meeting this new part of me for the first time, and learning that we are going to be life long friends.  I want to get to know this new part of me.  Be kind. Smile.  Ask questions.  I want to get to know her reaction to certain situations.  I am learning how she grounds herself when shit gets stressful. I am loving every moment of watching her walk tall, proud and confident. It brings me the most immense pride seeing her act upon her intuition and gut instinct, instead of what she thought was the “right thing to …

{journaling} Facilitating your own healing

I always used to be obsessed with journals. I guess it was the universe’s way to tell me to start writing down my thoughts and feelings on paper so I can facilitate my own healing. However, I would never write in them.  I would probably fill out a page, at most, but then leave it at that.  I couldn’t even re-gift it if I wanted to because I had already used one sad, lonely page.  Yet the collection of journals continue to grow.  For the past three months I have been undergoing some deep energy healing and it was benefited me tremendously, but nonetheless it’s still scary and doesn’t feel good, and I can’t help but wonder if that’s why I never wrote in all of those journals I have collected over the years. I think I just never really wanted to come face to face with my wounds and hurt from the past. Alas, I’m a little more than halfway through my first REAL journal (read: committed to writing more than just one page) …